Which are 5 most commonly used soft skills ? and how can one perfect them ? Please share pactical interesting examples .

Alison's Contribution:

Something happened and I could not save my response. First, let me assume you mean the soft skills outlined in the first wikipedia link below:

Participation in a team (see team building)
Ability to teach
Service
Leading a team (see leadership)
Negotiation
Unite a team amidst cultural differences
Motivation
Decision-making skills
Problem-solving skills
Etiquette

This answer may be briefer simply because I might not remember everything I said

Participation in a team (see team building) I recommend the Belbin Team skills - see 3rd link.

Ability to teach - at the heart of this is the ability to communicate. NLP - see second link can help with that. One must remember that it is a voyage of discovery for the learn and somethings they must learn for themselves.

Problem-solving skills There are any number of techniques for problem solving. I like using the de Bono Thinking Hats technique.

Etiquette - this can be as simple as the management team showing up for meetings on time which shows they value everyone's time.

Motivation - I use quotes to develop new insights and to motivate myself to learn something new or to do something better.

All the best,

Alison
Links:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Soft_skills
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neuro_Linguistic_Programming
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Belbin_Team_Inventory